That's becoming more and more glaringly obvious. Young people are not turning into adults. They're not getting jobs or getting married. They are, instead, traipsing in aimless circles, not growing up, not maturing, not living life. We are a culture of everlasting Peter Pans.
We are afraid.
There are so many possible outcomes to our lives, that we are afraid to commit to just one because we don't want to miss out on the others. So we end up not choosing any and missing out on them all. Life is not about making the best possible, most well-thought out, agonized-over decision. If that were the case, we'd waste all our time thinking and no time doing. And when I get to the end of my life, I want to have used it all up, not just hoarded it away.
"Seek ye first the kingdom of God." If we get our focus right, and we are truly seeking the kingdom of God, then whatever we do, wherever we go, we will be advancing that kingdom.
Probably the most agonized-over decision of all is about marriage. How do you know that you know that you know that this young man or young woman is the ONE? (All capitalized, of course.) What happens if you marry the wrong one?
JUST "go marry someone, provided you're equally yoked and you actually like being with each other," (Kevin DeYoung, Just Do Something.) We need to stop testing people out. Stop fretting and dilly-dallying. Stop making excuses. If people venture into marriage with that "there is only ONE person in the whole entire world whom I should marry" type of mindset, then further down the road, when the going gets tough, they will be tempted to surmise that, perhaps, they might have married the wrong one. And people use that as excuse to divorce. After all, they don't want to be outside God's will. But that utterly misses the point. Whoever you marry becomes the One. Because. . . well, you married them. Instead of tormenting yourself with doubts about them being "right", you make yourself right.
We should try to make wise decisions, yes. But sometimes we're going to mess up. Sometimes the choices we make will be just plain stupid. And that's okay. If we get sidetracked, God will, obviously, put us back where He wants us to be. We don't have to worry about that.
So, instead of always waiting, act. Go somewhere, live someplace, do things, marry someone. Don't be afraid to commit. Life is dangerous. That's just how things are. If you don't take risks, you won't live at all. But we really don't have to be afraid. . .
Do everything to the glory of God. The rest will fall into place.